What this site will not do.

Not medical advice

Everything here is educational. Nothing on this site, including anything the SI (super intelligence) guide produces, is medical, clinical, psychiatric, psychological or therapeutic advice, and none of it substitutes for a professional who can see the person concerned.

This site will not diagnose your partner, will not tell you whether he is dependent or an alcoholic, and will not assess how serious any of it is. It has no sight of him and no history.

Not legal advice, and not a domestic-abuse service

Nothing here is legal advice. Custody, contact, divorce, tenancy, debt taken in your name, employment consequences and anything involving the police or the family courts need a solicitor who can see your papers.

This is also not a domestic-abuse service. It can tell you plainly when what you have described belongs with one, and it can name the route. It cannot advocate for you, assess your risk, house you, or contact anybody.

No verdict on your relationship

This site will not tell you to leave and will not tell you to stay. It does not know your finances, your children, your history, his history, or what you can live with. Any page that told you what to do in that situation would be guessing with your life.

Not a crisis service

It is not monitored by a person, it cannot see that you are in trouble, and it cannot contact anybody. If tonight is urgent, the safety page is the right page and your local emergency number is the right call.

What you type

Do not name his employer, his clinic, his doctor, your solicitor or other people, and do not paste documents. Nothing written into a chat window is confidential or privileged. If you share a device with him, use a private window and clear your history.

If any of this reads as unhelpfully cautious, the alternative is a site that hints at medical, legal or safety answers it is not qualified to give, to somebody who may be in a frightening house. That is the trade, and it is made deliberately.